That's not the relay or "coils", that's just the socket that the relay sits in. I don't see anything wrong there.
Fix the suspension height issue - your "lowered" aftermarket change is likely why the system refuses to calibrate. Stop trying to deflect from the known issue.
I know you really don't want your "lowered" car to be the issue, because I know you really want to keep it "lowered", but you need to understand that these cars are highly engineered with complex software running in the background to make everything work. The suspension controller is refusing to calibrate because all necessary parameters are
NOT reporting what it wants to see. cannot change this - it's not that's refusing to calibrate, it's the control module in your car. is simply passing the bad news through to you where you can read and interpret it. That "lowered" mod you did is also likely why you were getting sporadic errors for the last year or two - you've been sitting right on the edge of the tolerances built into the software.
Put the car back to its correct/stock ride height and you'll probably be able to calibrate it. After that, if you absolutely insist on messing up your suspension geometry again, feel free - it's your car; but when you get more errors, you now know why they keep coming back.
